Turning 61 Years Old

What I Didn’t Expect (but deeply appreciate)

On May 25, I’ll turn 61. And while I don’t usually make a big deal of birthdays, this one feels worth pausing for and noting.

There are things I expected about getting older, more perspective, more clarity, more confidence in saying yes, or no. But there are a few things I didn’t see coming:

That I’d become a pickleball athlete at 59

Yes, athlete! I play multiple times a week, and it brings me more joy (and laughter) than I ever imagined. I’ve found a community that’s energizing, supportive, and just the right amount of competitive. It’s a reminder that it’s never too late to discover a new passion or to be surprised by your own capabilities. (If you’re  interested in trying it, let me know, I’ve got a loaner paddle with your name on it.)

That I’d feel more curious, creative, and connected than I did in my 30s Somewhere along the way, the pressure to figure it all out and have all the answers gave way to permission to explore and say, I don’t know. I’ve found that curiosity keeps me open, creativity keeps me grounded, and connection, real connection, is where the magic happens. It’s not about having the answers; it’s about asking better questions and showing up fully in the moment.

That I'd learn the value of slowing down, not because I have to, but because I want to savor what matters

I used to equate productivity with purpose. Now, I understand that being present and fully engaged is powerful. I’ve started writing in a journal regularly, capturing small gratitudes and quiet observations. It’s a practice that gently reminds me that life doesn’t have to be big or loud to be meaningful. 

As I celebrate another year around the sun, I’m reminded that the best parts of life often aren’t planned they’re discovered, welcomed, and sometimes stumbled into with a bit of grace and humor.

What about you?

What has surprised you about where you are in life right now? Something unexpected, joyful or quietly profound? I’d love to hear what you’re learning along the way. Send me an email.

These are the conversations that keep us connected.

With gratitude,

Aderonke

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