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Solitude, the state of being alone, can be a powerful and transformative experience. In our busy and highly connected world, it can be easy to forget the benefits of spending time alone and reflecting on our thoughts and emotions. This month, we will explore the concept of solitude and how it can benefit our lives.


Solitude can provide us with the opportunity to reflect on our thoughts and emotions. By spending time alone, we can gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and our values. This can help us to make informed decisions and live a more authentic and self-aware life.


Solitude can also be a powerful source of creativity. By disconnecting from the distractions and spending time alone, we can tap into our creativity and imagination. This can help us to generate new ideas and find innovative solutions.

Ignoring distractions

Distractions can be as simple as the sound of a message coming through on our communications devices and the desire to check. Our mind may wonder about who the message is from and whether or not we should take a quick look, just in case it is important.

A distraction could be finding something critical that must be addressed immediately, like washing the dishes, putting a pile of clothes into the washer. Anything that will stop us from hearing our thoughts and letting them sit with us.

Mental health

Solitude and silence can also benefit our mental health. By taking time for ourselves and disconnecting from the world, we can reduce stress and improve our overall well-being. Solitude and silence can also provide us with the opportunity to practice mindfulness and meditation, which can have a positive impact on our mental health.

A few years ago, I was participating in a coaching certification with a friend. I was her client and she got to use her newly-acquired skills.

I was traveling during one of our sessions and I had to be quiet for four hours. This gave me an opportunity to observe the world around me, without interacting with it. I happened to be in a large city at the time. I knew I could be silent, I didn’t speak the language and I could quietly observe what was going on around me. I got on a tour bus, put in my ear buds and set off. About half way through the tour, a couple got on and asked where I got my map. I broke my silence. I returned to my hotel and started my time of silence again.

traveling alone

I've learned that as a solo traveler I can spend time alone and not be lonely. I can sit by myself and let my thoughts move around without them being interrupted. I find the key to hearing my thoughts is to not pack too many activities into my vacations. To give myself permission to have days where I don't do anything.

This allows thoughts, ideas and feelings to bubble to the surface where I can examine them, or not. Where I can let them take shape, or not. The great thing is I can hear the thoughts. This is something that doesn't always happen when I am busy, when I'm facing deadlines or simply getting my day to day work completed.

Having time and space alone makes a difference and I return feeling refreshed and calm.


Solitude can also help us to develop independence and self-reliance. By spending time alone, we can learn to trust ourselves and our abilities. This can help us to become more self-sufficient and confident when making decisions.


Finally, solitude can also help us to connect with others on a deeper level. By reflecting on our own thoughts and emotions, we can gain a greater understanding of the experiences of others. This can help us to build stronger relationships and empathize with those around us.

This month we will explore the powerful and transformative experience of solitude and silence. It can benefit our lives in many ways. By taking time for ourselves and reflecting on our thoughts and emotions, we can gain a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world around us.

creating solitude

Here are five things you can do to create solitude for yourself:

  1. Pick a date and time where you can experience solitude and quiet, without distractions and interruptions. If necessary, schedule the time in your calendar.

  2. Find a quiet space, at home, in a park, at the beach, turn off your phone and sit quietly.

  3. Set your alarm and wake up a few minutes earlier. Enjoy the quietness of the house before your day starts.

  4. Turn off the TV, radio, computer, sit in the silence.

  5. Plan a solo trip. It can be to the next town, a nearby community or it could be a vacation. The key will be to give yourself time to get comfortable being alone and discovering what happens next.


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